Is This Love or What?

Is this Love?
Today there are mixed reactions as to love between different set of people. People are approached and confronted by the opposite sex that they want to have an association whose form cannot be explained. With the advent of cell phone and internet it is realized that women/girls for instance communicate easily with men forwarding their requests for one relationship to another and vice versa. Many will believe with me that a lot of people have this experience. Please my readers, I will tell you my experience on how I was approached by these types of ladies. But what baffles me is, is it love they give and demand same in return? I do not know but may be we will find out together.

Before I share my experience with you I have found something as a background. What is love? What are the bases for love? Then what causes love?

Love
Deep affection or fondness

Basis of love
1. Without acquaintance and understanding, love does not take form, as man does not love one with whom he is not acquainted. For this reason he does not love a lifeless thing rather he can love one who has got life and understanding. (1) Mind likes a thing congenial to nature. (2) Mind hates a thing opposed to nature. (3) Mind hates what is injurious and pains-giving. So love means attraction of mind to what is tasteful and pleasure giving. When it is strong and firm, then there is deep love.

2. The second basis is that when it comes after knowledge and acquaintance. It is divided into several divisions from the stand point of knowledge and five senses. Every sense is satisfied with that thing over which it has got power and influence. Eye is satisfied with beautiful things, ear is satisfied with sweet sounds and songs, nose is satisfied with sweet scent and smell, tongue is satisfied with delicious foods, hand is satisfied with smooth touch. The object for which each sense finds delight is dear to it. The sixth sense is intellect, light, heart, mind or soul. The inner eye is more powerful than the external eye and the mind’s eye is more powerful than the external eye. The beauty which can be perceived through intellect is more than that of eye sight.

3. He who loves himself loves another for himself. Every living being loves his life. That means man wants that he should live forever and that his qualities should gain perfection. Nobody wants his destruction and loss of his qualities.

Causes of Love
1. A man loves his life than his limbs, than his properties, children, relatives and friends. Man does not love these things only for them, but for the fact that they help towards his long life and attainment of perfection. Even after his death, he wants to live through his heirs.

2. Another cause is getting benefit. A man loves one from whom he gets benefit as he is a servant of benefits.

3. To love a thing for its quality and not for the thing itself is another cause. A good figure is loved for its beauty.

4. Acquaintance with beauty is another cause. The external eye appreciates external beauty. A woman is beautiful when all her organs are proportionally beautiful. When her organs are not such, she cannot be called beautiful even though her colour is white. This is called acquaintance with beauty. So to get acquainted with perfection is a cause for love.

5. Secret connection between a lover and his beloved is another cause of love. Many a time love is cemented between them not for their beauty but for the union of their souls. The Prophet (SAW) said: ‘Out of them, love grows among those who have got similarity of souls’

If these qualities are found in one person, love for him is increased manifold. Power of love increases in proportion to the increase of those qualities in a man. If these qualities find full perfection in a man, love gains perfection.